How do I know if Mom needs assisted living or memory care?
The honest test is what's actually hard. Assisted living is right when Mom needs help with daily tasks — bathing, meds, meals — but is still oriented to time, place, and people. Memory care is right when she's wandering, sundowning, can't be left alone safely, or doesn't recognize family. Memory care costs $1,500–$2,500/month more because of higher staffing ratios and a secure perimeter. Most families wait six to twelve months too long to make the move.
